Every morning on my drive into the office, I listen to motivational videos on YouTube. It helps me get ready to tackle the challenges I face daily. Everyone tells you that time is an asset, it’s the one thing you spend foolishly and can’t get back. Now think about that for a moment.
Are there days that seem to go by fast and when you sit down at night to think about what was done, you come up blank and feel even more tired? We all have them. I get 4 day weekends sometimes and before that weekend starts I have so many plans in my head. At the end of the first day of not being productive, I talk myself into the abyss of “I still have 3 days before I have to go to work”. That justification is an excuse all dressed up in fake logic.
Time is certainly something that we need to value more than money. How many of you have spent years working for someone else and sacrificed too much time with your family for the sake of making the money to pay the bills? At the end of your life, what will matter is the time you spent, not the money. I have family members that do very well financially and have bought us very nice gifts but I would rather see them visit us for a few days.
Life is sad when the only time you see family is at funerals or weddings. I have spent years working in a place that I hate just for the health insurance, when I look back, I wish I said F*** this and quit. We can’t change the past but we can control the present time. Use your time on the planet to be there for the ones who matter. I know you have to work to pay the bills, they don’t just disappear.
Suicide in this country is high and one main reason is finances. I hear this and I think “what a waste of a life”. It’s only money. Those bills are still coming to your house and although you are dead and no longer stress over it, your family is devastated. Are you thinking that this must be so easy for me to say and that I don’t know what it’s like???
You are wrong! I have depression and anxiety. I have watched my husband lose a very good paying job that had the perfect schedule that allowed him to be with us and bring in the money. I have dealt with the calls, the letters, the threats, the fear! I watched our Jeep be repossed in the middle of the night after coming home from the ER with our daughter. I have been served the eviction notice and didn’t know what we would do if we didn’t find a place NOW.
I dealt with the job that harassed me all the time and every time I tried to fight back I was told there was nothing I could do. I couldn’t hire a lawyer, my family couldn’t help financially, I was miserable and angry for so long. My husband reminded me all the time that we need the health insurance for our disable daughter and future surgeries that she would have. I was told one day by him that I was being selfish and self centered because I came home in tears from work.
Everything got shut off and I went into survival mode for years. The goal was to keep a roof over our heads, the heat on, lights on, and food in our bellies. That’s it! Nothing else was getting paid until I could. I wasted years of my life being angry and not doing anything more than surviving. This is time I can’t get back, I can’t erase the words said, the emotions, the tears and the fights. I can focus on now and let the past be a teacher of what not to do now.
I share this with you in hope that I can help others understand how precious time is. If you were to die today, what would you be known for? Mine would be that I worked hard to support my family and resented my husband for not returning to work. Don’t get me wrong, my husband has taken care of the house, pets, cleaning, cooking most nights and our daughters therapy plus education over the years. This isn’t what I though my life would be.
Don’t let your goals and dreams disappear because society tells you that you can’t. Make a plan, stick to it and have patience. You have the same 24 hours as the millionaire, the bum, the janitor and your boss. It’s your life, you decide how to live it.